Sunbeams, What-iffing and Positivity

by | Sep 15, 2018 | Uncategorized | 5 comments

Positive thinking is an attribute we can all develop.  Each of us can adopt a positive attitude of mind and be much happier, more relaxed, calmer and more decisive as a result.

To survive as a species primitive man and woman had to be cautious, to be on their guard and spot possible life threatening dangers. In the modern world we are rarely in life threatening danger so operating from our primitive mind isn’t necessary anymore.  However, we still have a negative bias in our thinking. That means our default is to veer towards thinking negatively.

We can change this. We can reframe our thoughts. We can retrain our mind by choosing to think positively about life. To look for what is good in every day, in every body and every situation.  We can choose to imagine only good things happening to us. We can think positively if we choose to!

I’m sure it’s not a coincidence that Positive Thinking Day and Roald Dahl Day are celebrated on the same day as they go together beautifully. So here are some of my favourite positive thoughts from Roald Dah’ls books. You may find you love them as much as I do!

“You’ll never get anywhere if you go about what-iffing like that”

Charlie and the Great Glass Elevator

What if….. slows us down, makes us anticipate the worst, creates fear and worry and anxiety.  What if I don’t get that job?  What if I don’t like that side order? What if I never earn enough to pay off the mortgage? Imagining things going wrong literally stops us in our tracks – it paralyses us. Instead picture things going well which gives your mind a goal, a direction. You’ll feel so much better for thinking positively about the future too!

“If you have good thoughts they will shine out of your face like sunbeams”

The Twits

People like to be around people who are happy, positive, calm, relaxed and confident.  When we are thinking negatively other people pick up on this consciously or subconsciously.  No one wants to be around someone who is on edge, worried, stressed, irritable.  So, choose your thoughts with care and if a negative thought drifts into your mind replace it with a good thought, a happy thought about the person or the thing or about anything at all.

“Those who don’t believe in magic will never find it”  

The Minpins

If we tell ourselves that something isn’t possible – that we can’t change, that we will never lose that weight, get that job offer or sleep well, then we won’t. It’s as simple as that! Choose to believe that change is possible and look for the magic in life. You’ll find whatever you go looking for because that’s what you are choosing to pay attention to.  Instead look for the magic – it’s more sparkly!

“Somewhere inside all of us is the power to change the world”  

Matilda

If we believe that we can change the world, then we are opening our mind to all sorts of possibilities.  We all have potential. We have all the strengths and resources we need inside of us.  We the ability and capability to be the person we want to be.  That power can become lost under a veil of negativity but it’s always there.  It’s why I love hearing from clients  that they feel much more like themselves – happier, more positive, more confident.  That power is always there it’s about unlocking it and being the best that you can be.

“A little nonsense now and then, is cherished by the wisest men.”  

Charlie and the Great Glass Elevator

Having fun, being playful is essential for our emotional and mental well-being. Life isn’t about being serious all the time.  Stephen Hawkins was described as having a great sense of fun and playfulness and remember the Queen in the Bond spoof at the 2012 Olympics. Just think where and with whom you could have a bit more fun, more playfulness and engage in some nonsense. Have fun, keep smiling and stay positive.

If we choose to we can reframe our thoughts and train our mind to look for good things and think good things.

If you’d like to find out how a solution focused approach can be just the ticket to end the What-iffing, create those sunbeams and unlock that power within each of us please get in touch – you’ll be glad you did.